Femme: a queer who creates a badass feminine self
Another common suggestion seems to be that being femme somehow always affects your gender identity e.g. the cissexist idea that femme men aren‘t ―real men. Being femme does not affect how someone identifies unless they say it does. You do not get to decide what their gender is just because they choose to present a certain way. They are that gender because they say they are, not because you do.
I am always femme: whether I am wearing a short skirt, men’s pants, or nothing at all, you should be able to tell. Why? Because of how I walk. Because of the space my femininity takes up. Because of the way I have subsumed masculinity and remade it into my femininity. Because of how I look at you, sizing you up, deciding if I want to fuck, deciding whether to pull you or push you. Because of the way I talk to you, touch you, exist in space with you.